Aigeann wrote:Two houses to my left was rented by a gang.
Oh no! I hope they keep to themselves...I've had it explained that they're not supposed to attack people in certain areas. They're supposed to keep it to their 'turf', as I'm told. Unfortunately, that was our old block...I hear they've been terrorizing those that are left. Cops don't care, because they want them all in that area, so they leave the rest of the town alone. I hope the place you live isn't an area they're wanting for 'business'. Be safe!
My only contribution would be to suggest you address the issue of your roommate.
Ironic you say this now...he's been quite a relevant issue in the home this week. I'm at a loss on how to handle him. We were once very good friends. He even introduced me to my husband! The Gwersi I've gone through recently talk of how to treat friends, and the bonds they share. I'm not sure where and how to draw the line with this one. Good news is, he got a job!
Bad news...transportation. He doesn't drive. I told him I don't mind helping him out temporarily, but if its going to be long term, I'd like him to learn to use the bus. My husband also doesn't drive(its a mutual choice we made to save on the expense of two cars, plus his road rage), and picking up two people on two different parts of town is putting me in a car for hours a day. He absolutely refuses to use a bus, claims he's scared(30 year old man terrified of public transit....). He said his boss was going to arrange him rides, but when I asked him about it yesterday, I was told he didn't know when that was going to happen and I could "just deal with it". I can't converse with him about much anymore...any time I have an opinion, its wrong. He gets very angry when I tell him I no longer want to discuss a topic, and refuses to quiet, saying its his right as an American citizen to free speech, which I respond its my right to walk off and not listen, but then I'm told I'm being rude.
We're hoping he keeps the job, as we want our basement back, and he claims to want to be out too. I doubt we'll ever see the debts he owes us, though he's agreed to help with bills. He rolls his eyes and says he might think we're asking too much, but he'll do it.
I'd like to salvage the friendship, and him leave on good terms. I'd like to help him out of his depression, but he's so negative towards everything, I don't know what to do with him. We've tried to help him help himself, but despite his claims, he just wants someone to do it all for him(he once suggested I try to make some female friends so I could introduce him to someone...). I feel wrong turning from someone who's so down, but I can't have a 30 year old son. What can I do that's good for everyone? Assuming there is something...