I have always sort of felt that I am aligned with air. It is the element of the intellect, and I am always looking to read and learn as much as I can. My friends know me as the one with all the "useless information", if there truly is such a thing. Of course, air is also flighty, and I find myself very easily distracted by whatever thought crosses my mind. I am always living in my head, contemplating whatever mystery has me fascinated at the time. I feel that I lack earth and fire more than water. I have never had the "in-your-face" sort of dynamic personality that I feel fire represents, although, as it is the element of passion, I have had quite a bit to be passionate about recently, as I have learned more about my bardic path and what it means to me. Earth and I also do not see eye to eye, as you said. I am usually anything but grounded and practical, dealing with things of the mind and spirit, rather than physical things that one can see and touch. Some say that I don't live in the "here and now", but to me, what is life if it is not examined for its meaning?
I do have a very well rounded group of friends that I feel round out our elemental wheel, so to speak. My wife is very water-aligned, very caring and compassionate, even to the point of crying from the emotion that she caries. Fortunately for me, she also has enough earth within her to balance me out! My best friend and future brother-in-law (a story for another day!) is very much in line with the earth. He is the most practical person I know, thinking in terms of numbers, efficiency, and the physical world. It is even to his detriment sometimes, as he can get so wrapped up within his logical way of trying to act on something, that he never actually does anything! Finally, there is my sister-in-law, who is, to me, the epitome of fire. She is consumed with passion for music and her entire world revolves around it. Add to this her bright, energetic, and incredibly out-going personality and it seems to me a wonder sometimes that she doesn't burst into flames like the Human Torch. All in all, our group works well together.
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