gabrielapaoletti wrote:I' d like to adopt a very small child. I Have been told that adopting an older one would be better, but I really don' t think I could deal with the emotional problems these children usually have. I would be a single mom, learning to be a mom along with my child. I know I can give my child plenty of love and economic security but I can' t give him or her a traditional family.
I just don't see how it is selfish to give a baby or little toddler a home. It's not.
True, it might theoretically be MORE selfless to give a home to an older child, who as you say is likely to be disturbed or unhealthy... but that does not mean it is "selfish" to give a home to a baby or very young child!
Also, children who have been abused or abandoned (which is usually the case for older children available for adoption) don't just need a home, they need a parent or parents who has the knowledge, ability and financial means to give them the special treatment, including psychological treatment, that they need. If you don't have that knowledge, those abilities and those means, it would NOT be a good idea for you to adopt such a child.