Thanks Ailim for this post. During times of grief it is not always easy to come up with your own ceremony so it is wonderful if there is someone there that can help one in that endeavor!
You are right...it is very helpful to have ceremony for a pet that passes. I have always found some way to say good bye when I had a pet pass on! They are as much part of the family as any relative.....usually I like my critters more!
I have one pet burried outside our house. I kept her collar as a reminder. Then I have another pet cremated and sitting on our living room mantle with a lovely leather carving my husband made.
Heck....I dont think this is surprising for someone like me. When living with a friend and her spouse, I had a little hampster die (3 years old). I was so distraught I made a box with new bedding in it and carefully wrapped my beloved pet in some beautiful cloth prior to putting her in the box. Better yet, I had to wait until 2 am for my friends husband to come home and help dig the hole since it was winter and the ground was frozen solid! You should have seen the strange looks from him as I preceded to stay outside saying good bye for the next 30 minutes after he finished digging the hole (he watched from inside since I was more than capable of filling the hole in myself and it was very cold out!).
Love and laughter -- Liban