It is a lot simpler than that, and is just plain being responsible.
What I would like to see is effort made by the thread poster to matron the thread.
Yes, take responsibility for what is posted, watch, mediate and keep it on track. Only when others make this impossible, then please notify the forum moderator for help.
We can help in many ways.
We can split a thread which grows into more than one subject.
This often happens and is a natural part of exploring a subject and often wanders off topic.
This can help keep your thread all about the subject you wish to discuss and allow others and yourself to branch out into the many experiences and directions the original thought brought to mind.
Take responsibility when the subject might be touchy and be aware what might have been sincere could be flame bait for others.
Take responsibility to ensure misunderstanding does not go into argument.
Take responsibility to be sure people who might get offended are fairly treated. This means closely watching the topic you post, and tagging it so that you are e-mailed when replies come in.
Posting touchy subjects can be constructive, and bring insight. But we also need to be cyber savvy.
Posting about sensitive personal issues on an open forum is not responsible.
Posting offensive material is not responsible.
If members would like to review what is considered by the cyber world today as responsible, please see the links in the registration agreement.
After years of running this board, and its rapid growth, we searched far and wide, conversed with Admin from other pagan, religious, and general boards. We considered our own needs and set up open, private and even hidden forums provided by the phpBB group.
As much as someone might think we invented all of this, we didn't
The Admin and Moderators of this board worked very hard to make this board as liberal as possible. Normal moderating rules on most other public boards are far stricter, and have little or no interaction at all between Admin and members. No warnings, no review, just *poof* and it is over.
I have even seen other boards have displays of all the members they ban, pictures of them and so on. Frankly we have extremely few by comparison.
I attribute this to the very amazing community we have here. Almost everyone is very responsible and active. It is very rare that we have people bait threads.
We also have a very active team running the board.
We have an increasing problem with spam, trolling and even ID theft attempts. We do actively delete a lot of it, and guard against it.
If members would like to help limit the amount of moderation needed on this board, then please research the links and net savvy tips we provide in the registration agreement.
Please take responsibility to help and we will all be dancing the Jig!
We wish to seriously limit antagonism between posters.
We do have to insist that the rules and guidelines be fair and followed.
This OBOD board has a few special needs that other boards do not, and we constantly review and grow with these needs.