Kris Hughes wrote:I'm another one who would rather write it all down and slide it under the door. In my case it's because I tend to get outwardly emotional when I talk about my feelings, and others end up focusing on that rather than the content of what I'm trying to share. However, I am also a writer and pretty analytical. Here's what I've found, though. Very often, what I really need to say, boils down to a lot less than I think it does. I want to write in all sorts of "extras" like background material, side issues, either/or possibilities, etc. etc. The act of sifting through all of this and making a fairly simple statement has helped me gain a lot of clarity about what I think and also about what I feel!
My current partner has some challenges in the area of processing language. (He's always had them and the education system didn't help him with it - probably didn't even recognise it.) As a wordy person, I have found this pretty frustrating at times, but it has also taught me a lot about true communication and figuring out what is really important. It's also becoming clearer and clearer to me that much of what I think I need to say - I don't. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for sharing in relationships, however what I've noticed is that many of the things I find "difficult to share" are things that are not someone else's responsibility to deal with. It's my stuff. Stuff I either want to dump on somebody, or stuff I want to ask them to change, when it's me who needs to change. Of course, that could just be me!
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