Ruth wrote:To be honest, I thought eveything had at least just a little bit of the dark side.
I mean, isn't that normal for human beings?
Yes, indeed. Whether we like it or not, we have a balance of 'light' and 'dark', as does all of nature. I think this pertains however you define those terms - revealed vs. hidden, life-bringing vs. death-bringing, etc.
This to me is where - for instance - the Wiccan Rede ['An it harm none, do as you will'], or even the Golden Rule ['Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'], is not possible to apply wholeheartedly and still live a biological life on this planet. I've seen discussions deteriorate into absurdity very often, largely because people become so averse to the simple science of life, as if it should obey our arbitrary moral laws. Just one example: We have an immune system that is highly organized and efficient at murdering alien life forms that trespass on our bodies; so even if you subsist on nothing more than pure air (which no one can do for very long), you're killing organisms just by existing. Yet people insist on taking the tack that we should strive to be 100% 'light' and 'goodness', which means never harming any other form of life. It just isn't possible. Period.
The same applies in the other direction, of course: we have colonies of 'good' life forms that live in symbiosis with us; we can't live without them, they can't live without us. One reason we have such an upsurge of certain chronic conditions (such as Inflammatory Bowel Diseases) in our times is the abuse of antibiotics, which generally go in like berserkers and murder everything in sight, including the bacteria that create the proper balance of life within our digestive system.
This is a microcosmic view of what I believe holds true for life as we know it. It is what it is - and if we're going to be really earth-based, we need to acknowledge that our lovely Mother Nature is an elegant, efficient destroyer and consumer as well as nurturing protector; and we are in her image.
I do realize that most people argue for specified application of the Rede or the Rule, but this is meant to illustrate the danger of taking principles to absurd extremes. Druidry reveals the cycle of nature and of life in all its terrible beauty; death must come for some, that life may come for others. Life --> Death --> Rebirth is the way of things, and it is not helpful to apply moral values to death unequivocally. I was taught growing up in Sunday School that Death is the ultimate enemy, brought about by the Fall of Man into sin and evil; I was taught by my Druid grandmother, however, that Death in itself is neither good nor bad. Even *bringing* death is neither good nor bad inherently; we do it every day to some form of life.
This is not to say, of course, that we should start going around taking life with malice or cruelty; but we should deal with life - as it TRULY is, not as it was when we were in Kindergarten making watercolor paintings of rainbow-strewn sunlit meadows filled with butterflies and music - in an honest, humble, and loving way.
We aren't meant for extremes; we live in a place of balance.